How well do you know me? 100 questions with answers to choose from

Guezzer content team · 11 November 2026

100 "how well do you know me" questions for friends, couples, family, coworkers and kids, each with four answers to pick from, plus how to play and score it.

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“How well do you know me?” is one of the oldest games there is. One person answers a question about themselves, everyone else guesses what they said, and within ten minutes somebody has discovered that their best friend of twelve years secretly hates pizza.

It works because everyone thinks they know the people around them, and nobody does quite as well as they think. A couple who’ve been together for years can’t agree on who falls asleep first during a film. A family can’t settle which word a child said first. Friends who swear they know everything get the coffee order wrong.

This post has 100 questions, each with four answers to choose from, split into sections for friends, couples, family, coworkers and kids. Before the list, there’s a short guide to playing it as a party game, scoring it and writing questions of your own.

How to play

The basic game needs nothing but paper and pens.

Pick someone for the hot seat. They’re the person being asked about. Everyone else is a guesser.
Read out a question and its four answers. For example: “Which word do you say far too often? Literally, honestly, basically or anyway?”
The hot seat answers in secret. They write the true answer on a slip of paper, folded, so nobody can see.
Everyone else guesses. Each guesser writes down which answer they think the hot seat picked.
Reveal. The hot seat shows their slip. Every guesser who got it right scores a point.
Pass the hot seat on. Play three to five questions per person, then move to the next player.

The person in the hot seat doesn’t score on their own turn. That matters more than it sounds: if they can’t win anything by answering, they’ve got no reason to pick the answer that makes them look good, and the game is only fun when the answers are true.

Why four answers work better than open questions

You can play with open questions (“What’s your comfort food?”), but scoring becomes an argument. Is “pasta” the same as “spaghetti carbonara”? Is “something sweet” close enough to “chocolate”?

Four fixed answers solve that. A guess is either right or wrong, the round takes thirty seconds, and the group spends its energy on the fun part: the reveal and the “I knew it!” that follows. The answers also give guessers something to reason about. If the options are a beach, a city, mountains or a road trip, and you know your friend gets bored after one day of sunbathing, you’ve got a real decision to make.

If none of the four answers is quite right for the person in the hot seat, let them pick the closest one. Or let them swap one answer for their own before anyone guesses, as long as they don’t tell anyone which one they changed.

Scoring a whole evening

For a longer game, keep a tally on a sheet of paper.

1 point for each correct guess.
2 points if you’re the only one who guessed right. It rewards people who really know the person rather than the ones who go for the obvious answer.
At the end, the player with the most points “knows everyone best”.

It’s also fun to track who was easiest to guess. The person whose answers almost everyone got right is an open book. The one nobody could read is the mystery of the group, and usually quite proud of it.

Different ways to play

The couples version. Both partners answer each question at the same time, on paper: one about themselves, the other about their partner. Then they reveal together. One point every time the guess matches the answer. With several couples at a party, it becomes a competition to find the couple who really do know each other, and it often isn’t the one who’s been together longest.

The friends quiz you send round. Write ten questions about yourself with four answers each, send them to your friends and ask them to reply with their guesses. You mark them and announce a winner. It works well in a group chat, and it’s a nice idea for a birthday: the birthday person writes the quiz, and the winner gets the first slice of cake.

Hot seat for one round. Instead of rotating every few questions, one person stays in the hot seat for ten questions. Good for a birthday, a leaving party or a hen or stag do, where the evening is about one person anyway.

Team version. For big groups, split into two teams. Each team picks someone from the other team for the hot seat, and the team agrees on one guess together. The discussion is the best part: “No, she’d never pick the mountains, she complained about the walk for a whole year.”

How to write your own questions

The questions below will get you started, but questions written for the people in the room are always the best.

All four answers should be believable. If one answer is obviously the joke, everyone picks it and nobody learns anything. The game works when the guessers have to think.
Ask about habits, not facts. “Where were you born?” has one answer everyone in the family already knows. “What do you do first when you get home?” makes people think about what they’ve actually seen.
Keep it kind. Questions about weight, money, exes or anything someone might be sensitive about are best left out, unless the group is very close and everyone has said they’re happy.
Mix easy and hard. A few easy questions at the start make everyone feel clever. The hard ones later are where the scores separate.

100 “how well do you know me” questions

Each question has four answers. Read them all out, then let the hot seat answer and everyone else guess. The questions are written for the person in the hot seat (“you”), so read them as they are.

For friends

Which film could you watch again and again? A 2000s comedy / A long fantasy saga / An animated film / A musical
What are you like with plans? Always early / Ten minutes late / The one who cancels / The one who organises everything
Which word do you say far too often? Literally / Honestly / Basically / Anyway
Which round would you win on a quiz show? Music / Geography / Sport / None, but I’d be great TV
What do you want after a really bad day? A big bowl of pasta / Chocolate / Chips / Nothing, I lose my appetite
Which sound annoys you most? Loud chewing / Someone whistling / A phone on full volume / Jangling keys
Which holiday would you pick with a week’s notice? A beach and a book / A city with good food / Mountains and hiking / A road trip with no plan
What do you listen to in the shower? Pop / Old classics / A podcast / Nothing at all
Which job would you be worst at? Waiter / Teacher / Surgeon / Air traffic controller
How do you take a compliment? Say thank you / Make a joke / Argue with it / Go red and change the subject
What do you open first when you pick up your phone? Messages / Short videos / A shopping app / The news
Which world would you live in for a year? A school for wizards / A spaceship / A cartoon village / A sitcom flat
What would you never wear? Socks with sandals / A matching outfit with a friend / Anything bright yellow / A hat
What’s your first move at a buffet? Straight to dessert / A little of everything / One big plate of one thing / A salad, to look good
How do you end a text? A kiss / An emoji / Nothing at all / A full stop, always
Which TV competition would you enter? A baking show / A singing show / A dating show / A survival show
Which age would you go back to for a week? Seven / Sixteen / Twenty-one / None, I’m fine where I am
Which smell do you love? Fresh bread / Rain / Petrol / Sun cream
What do you collect without meaning to? Tote bags / Hair ties / Receipts / Phone chargers
How do you choose a restaurant? Read reviews for half an hour / The nearest one / Somewhere I’ve been before / Whatever my friends pick
What do you do at a concert? Sing every word / Film half of it / Stand at the back / Find the bar
Which would you give up for a year? Coffee / Social media / Takeaways / Music
What would you do first with a time machine? See the dinosaurs / Meet my grandparents when they were young / Visit the future / Undo one embarrassing moment
What do you do when a friend is sad? Turn up with snacks / Listen for hours / Make them laugh / Send a long message
How do you get ready for a night out? Ten minutes, done / Music on and an hour of getting ready / Try on five outfits / Ask the group chat what they’re wearing

For couples

Which date would you plan with no budget? A weekend in a big city / A cabin in the woods / A private dinner / A concert in another country
What do you notice first about someone? Their eyes / Their smile / Their shoes / Their voice
What’s your idea of a perfect anniversary? A fancy dinner / A trip away / A night in / We always forget it
Who falls asleep first on film night? Me, within ten minutes / My partner / Neither of us / Both, at the same time
How do you cook together? A real team / One cooks, one washes up / Total chaos / We order in
What do you argue about in the car? Directions / The music / Speed / Who’s driving
Which small thing makes your day? A message at lunchtime / A coffee brought to me / A hug when I get home / An hour on my own
You win a weekend away for two. Where do you go? The beach / A city / A spa hotel / I’d sell it
How do you sleep? On my back / On my side / Like a starfish / Curled up in a ball
Who’s the better driver? Me / My partner / Neither of us / We take the train
Who would survive longer in the wild? Me / My partner / Both of us, together / Neither, we’d be gone by day two
What do you do first when you get home? Shoes off and straight to the sofa / Open the fridge / Shower / Check my phone
Which room would you redecorate first? The kitchen / The bedroom / The living room / The bathroom
How do you plan a holiday together? I plan everything / My partner plans everything / We discuss it for weeks / We book something at the last minute
What annoys you most at home? Dishes left in the sink / Lights left on / Wet towels on the bed / Cupboard doors left open
What would you name a dog? A human name, like Dave / A food, like Biscuit / Someone famous / A classic dog’s name
What do you do on a long car journey together? Sing / Listen to podcasts / Sleep / Talk the whole way
Who says sorry first? Me / My partner / Whoever’s hungrier / Nobody, we just move on
What’s your ideal Saturday morning? A lie-in / A market and brunch / The gym / Getting jobs done
Which film genre do you agree on? Comedy / Thriller / Romance / We never agree
Who finishes the milk and doesn’t buy more? Me / My partner / Both of us / We don’t drink milk
What would your dream wedding look like? A big party / Small, just family / Just the two of us / Somewhere abroad
What would you do on your first night in a new home? Pizza on the floor / Unpack everything / Invite friends round / Fall asleep straight away
How tidy are you? Very / Tidy, but the drawers are chaos / Messy, but I know where everything is / Don’t ask
What do you choose for a date night in? A board game / Cooking together / A film / A bath and an early night

For family

Who in the family do you message most? Mum / Dad / A brother or sister / A cousin
What were you known for as a toddler? Never sleeping / Eating everything / Talking non-stop / Running off
What was your first word? Mum / Dad / The pet’s name / Something nobody expected
Which job do you do at home without being asked? Taking the bins out / Washing up / Hoovering / Honestly, none
What do you bring when you visit your parents? Food / A bag of washing / Flowers / Just myself
Where did you spend most of your time as a teenager? My bedroom / The kitchen / In front of the TV / Anywhere but home
What did you get from your family? The laugh / The nose / The temper / The handwriting
What would your family cook for your birthday? My favourite meal / A homemade cake / A takeaway / A barbecue
What did you do with your first wages? Saved them / Bought clothes / Gave some to the family / Spent them on a night out
What was your first hobby? Football / Dancing / Drawing / Music lessons
What would you save first in a flood? The photo albums / The pet / My laptop / Grandma’s recipes
Who wins at cards in your family? A grandparent / A parent / Me / Nobody, someone always cheats
What did you want for your eighteenth birthday? A big party / Driving lessons / A trip / Money
Where would your dream family holiday be? A beach / A theme park / A cottage in the countryside / Abroad, with all the cousins
What did you sneak as a child? Biscuits / Late-night TV / Make-up / Reading under the covers with a torch
What would you like to inherit? A recipe book / A piece of jewellery / The photo albums / An old record collection
Which family photo makes you cringe? The school photo / The holiday with the bad haircut / The baby in the bath / The fancy dress one
What’s your job on moving day? Lifting / Packing / Making tea / Disappearing
If your family were a TV show, what would it be? A sitcom / A drama / A cooking show / A nature documentary
How do you celebrate good news in your family? A big meal / A phone call to everyone / Cake / Nobody makes a fuss

For coworkers

These are safe for people who work together but don’t know each other well, so they’re good for a new team or a welcome lunch.

What was your first job? In a shop / In a café or restaurant / Babysitting / Delivering newspapers
How do you keep a to-do list? In a paper notebook / In an app / On sticky notes / In my head
What’s your out-of-office message like? Short and formal / Friendly, with an emoji / Trying to be funny / I always forget to set one
What’s on your phone’s lock screen? A pet / Family or a partner / A holiday photo / Whatever it came with
How many unread messages are on your phone right now? None / Under ten / Hundreds / Thousands
How do you spend your weekends? Sport / Family / Doing nothing, gladly / A side project
Where did you grow up? In a big city / In a small town / In the countryside / In several countries
How do you take notes in meetings? On a laptop / In a notebook / On my phone / I don’t
What are you reading at the moment? A novel / Non-fiction / Nothing / Articles on my phone
Which language would you learn? Spanish / Japanese / Italian / Sign language
How do you spend a long weekend? A short trip / Jobs around the house / Seeing family / Sleeping
Which pet do you have? A dog / A cat / Something unusual / None
What could you teach the team? Cooking / A language / Photography / A sport
Which sport do you follow? Football / Tennis / None at all / Something nobody else watches
Where would you hold the team’s next away day? By the sea / In the mountains / In a big city / Online, from my sofa

For kids

Children love being in the hot seat, and they’re often better guessers than the adults. These questions work for ages five and up.

What’s your favourite thing at the park? The swings / The slide / Football / Feeding the ducks
Which animal is the best? A dog / A horse / A dinosaur / A shark
What would you do with some birthday money? Buy sweets / Buy a toy / Buy stickers / Save it
Which dinner would you eat every day? Pizza / Pasta / Pancakes / Chicken nuggets
What would you change if you were the teacher for a day? No homework / Longer playtime / Lessons outside / A film all afternoon
What’s the best colour? Red / Blue / Green / Purple
What’s the best bit of a birthday party? The cake / The presents / The games / The party bag
What would your robot do? Tidy my room / Do my homework / Play with me / Make snacks
What would you rather be? A pirate / An astronaut / A wizard / A footballer
What do you do first when it snows? Build a snowman / Have a snowball fight / Go sledging / Stay inside where it’s warm
Which magical creature would you keep as a pet? A dragon / A unicorn / A talking cat / A tiny dinosaur
What’s the hardest part of bedtime? Brushing teeth / Turning the screen off / Getting out of the bath / Falling asleep
What would you build a den with? Blankets / Cardboard boxes / Sofa cushions / Branches
What’s the best part of a holiday? The pool / Ice cream / The plane / The hotel breakfast
What’s the funniest thing in the world? Silly noises / Tickling / Grown-ups dancing / Funny faces

Playing it on everyone’s phones

The paper version is great, but someone has to read the questions, collect the slips and keep the score. If you’d rather play on phones, How Well Do You Know Me? is our version of the game.

Players take turns in the hot seat. The hot seat sees a question about themselves with up to four answers and picks the true one in secret; everyone else then guesses on their own phone. If none of the answers fits, the hot seat can rewrite one before picking it, and the guessers can’t tell which one was changed. The game keeps the score and, at the end, shows a Friendship Map of who knows whom best.

There are question packs for friends, couples, coworkers and family, and before the game everyone can write up to three questions of their own, about a specific player or about anyone. It takes 2 to 10 players and runs in the browser with nothing to install: one person opens a room on play.guezzer.com and the others join with the room code. Because everyone answers on their own phone, it works just as well on a video call.

Common mistakes

Answering for your image. The game only works if the hot seat answers honestly. Remind people that they don’t score on their own turn, so there’s nothing to win by looking good.
Saying guesses out loud. If guesses are spoken in turn, the later players just copy whoever knows the person best. Write them down and reveal together.
One obvious joke answer. If three answers are serious and one is silly, the silly one wins every time. Make all four plausible.
Questions that are too personal. A question that makes someone uncomfortable kills the mood for the whole table. If in doubt, leave it out.
Too long in the hot seat. Twenty questions about one person is a lot, even at their own birthday. Five per turn keeps everyone involved.

Questions people ask

How many questions should we play? About five per person per round. With six players, that’s thirty questions, which takes thirty to forty minutes.

Can two people play? Yes. Take turns in the hot seat and guess each other’s answers. It’s how most couples play it.

What if the hot seat lies? Then the game stops being fun, mostly for them. If someone keeps choosing the answer that makes them look good, give the guessers one challenge per game: if they’re sure the answer is wrong, the group votes on it.

Is it a good game for people who’ve just met? It can be, with the coworker questions, but it’s funnier with people who know each other a little. For a group of strangers, start with icebreaker questions and play this later in the evening.

Where else does it work? It’s a natural fit for games with close friends, family gatherings and birthday parties. For colleagues, our post on games to play with coworkers has more ideas, and for groups that can’t meet in person, see games to play on a video call.

The best part

The best moment isn’t the winner. It’s when the hot seat reveals an answer that nobody saw coming, and the whole room turns to look at them. Someone always says “I’ve known you for ten years!” That’s the game working exactly as it should.